Family Mediation ‐ FAQ

Can I still get support from my Solicitor?

Yes. The mediation meetings are a good way of sorting through options and planning in detail the arrangements for your child or children and/or your financial arrangements.

Your Solicitor will be able to advise you at any stage most usefully when you have reached (or just about reached) your plan.

After the mediation meetings have concluded the mediator can do a written summary of the plan which you have reached in mediation. You can pass the plan on to your Solicitor for legal advice and then put this into legal effect.

Can my children have a say?

Yes. Depending on your child's age and provided your child, both parents and the mediator agree, the mediator can arrange to spend some time with your child or children.

Your child's meeting with the mediator will be confidential.

The overall purpose is to help inform the family situation as a whole.

Can you give me an idea of timescale?

Typically each mediation meeting together lasts for an hour and a half. You might have say three meetings over a period of say four to six weeks. On the other hand one meeting might be enough.

Timescale depends very much on what will work best for you and your situation. The mediator will discuss this with you at the introductory meeting.

Do I have to meet my ex-partner?

No. You don`t have to meet. The mediator will discuss this with you at the introductory meeting.

How can I find out more?

You could phone us on 01603 620508.

We offer an introductory meeting which can be joint or separate, whichever you prefer.

This could be in:

  • Norfolk
  • Suffolk
  • Bury St Edmunds
  • Norwich
  • Ipswich
  • Wymondham
  • Lowestoft
  • Thetford

How much does mediation cost?

For each of two people taking part in mediation the cost is:

For an introductory session £90 plus VAT

For each of 1 ½ hours £160 plus VAT

This information is correct as of February 2017

I don't understand why my Solicitor has referred me to mediation

Your solicitor thinks that an introductory mediation meeting will give you extra useful information about the options available to help you sort out your arrangements.

If you want to make an application to Court, the Court requires you first to have an introductory meeting with a mediator so you can see whether some mediation meetings could be a more effective way of sorting things out.

Is mediation confidential?

The discussions in each mediation meeting is confidential as between you and anyone else at the meeting including the mediator.

However, there are two quite important exceptions:

  • If the mediator thinks that anyone involved (including a child) might be at risk of harm
  • If the mediator thinks that anyone might be involved in any financial irregularity

Separating or Divorcing

If you are separating or divorcing now, or if you split up a while ago, it is important to try to keep in touch and to keep talking. The more you can sort out and work out together the better - even though it is hard.

Mediation in a neutral place with a mediator to look after you both will help you to adjust and to do the planning that you need to do.

So a plan reached in mediation is not legally binding?

No a plan reached in mediation is not legally binding. This is an important safeguard for everyone.

In the mediation meetings we can freewheel and try out ideas as we go along.

Once you have put together your plan in mediation you can check it with your Solicitor. In this way you make good use of your time and good use of your Solicitor's time.

What does a family mediator do?

The mediator's job is to be impartial, to look after each of you and to help you to work through and test out options: ultimately to achieve your plan.

The mediator will not tell you what to do or give you advice. But the mediator can give you information about the Courts` approach and what the law says.

All our mediators are also solicitors with many years experience in Family Law.

What is Family Mediation?

Mediation is ideal for people in difficult or awkward family situations who need to be able to communicate in a way which is neutral and calm.

Problems to sort out might include arrangements for children, housing, money, pensions and so on.

Mediation can be helpful at any stage.

Your relationship might be as former partners, parents, or as a grandparent.

Who will be at the mediation meeting?

The mediation can be together or in separate rooms, whichever is most appropriate.

You don't necessarily have to meet.